Building Bridges-( Always finding a way over,across and /or past)

(Obviously there are exceptions and unique circumstances)

Grudges are only held because someone will not let go of what has passed.
Make an effort  each new day to relate to people as if you have no mutual negative past and then the energy that the past would drain is channeled into a possible future that would gain

Building Bridges-( Always finding a way over,across and /or past)

Pay attention to people's" reach out" language otherwise you may miss out on opportunities to build bridges and preserve relationships

Building Bridges-( Always finding a way over,across and /or past)

10 Essentials of a bridge builder

1. A bridge builder never extinguishes hope due to his readiness to build

2.A bridge builder understands that the past is not forgotten but rather that a bridge makes a future possible

3.A bridge builder know that bridges cannot be built if one cannot acknowledge the existence of views,attitudes etc other than ones own

4. A bridge builder makes his negative ego subservient to the enduring value of the bridge

5. A bridge builder is more open to growth due to his willingness to build

6. A bridge builder knows that a bridge is only built if another is also willing to build

7. A bridge builder knows that even if a bridge is not built the persistent efforts and attempts to build allow for a higher quality of life than allowing discord ,friction,grudges and animosity to capture ones focus

8.A bridge builder understands that without bridges relationships cannot last

9. A bridge builder understands that the essence of bridge building is giving

10. A bridge builder is cognizant of the fact that every bridge needs maintenance

Building Bridges-( Always finding a way over,across and /or past)

Building Bridges-( Always finding a way over,across and /or past)

If you want to build a bridge don't bring baggage that is too heavy that even if you build the bridge you might not get across it

Ask yourself:

How important is it that I keep this baggage?

How is keeping this baggage impacting my relationships and my life in general?

How if at all is holding on to this baggage holding me back in any way?

What if any are the benefits of letting of the baggage for me and those in my life?

Building Bridges-( Always finding a way over,across and /or past)

When you choose to see what you want to to criticize , correct,blame etc someone about as a chessed(kindness,giving) opportunity for your soul instead , your mindset changes and you go from

Criticizing to Caring
Correcting to Reflecting
blame to Positive Outcome Focus etc

Building Bridges-( Always finding a way over,across and /or past)

When you expect differences, respect differences, accept differences between people then in a relationship, in whatever area ,you will make a difference.

Building Bridges-( Always finding a way over,across and /or past)

We all truly need to be wary of our Judgements, Assumptions, Expectations etc of people.We really need to leave that to G-d
Most of us simply have no idea what others are going through, have gone through in the their lives, what consumes them etc ,how they are taking it and the full import of the impact on their lives
All we need to to do is give them a dose of our heart felt vitamin C
Care, Concern, Consideration, Compassion